The holidays can be such a wonderful, joyful time of the year, but they can also be one of the most stressful times of the year. Between all the parties, to-do lists, forced family time, and other social obligations, it’s hard to be happy and joyous! In fact, more often than not, feelings of resentment, frustration, overwhelm, and even depression creep up during this time of year. The expectation of joy adds even more pressure and no one wants to be labeled a “ba-humbug” so we suck it all up and keep the negativity inside. This is a recipe for a holiday meltdown, and can leave you feeling powerless and defeated.
Becoming a victim of expectations, whether they are your expectations or someone else’s, will sap your power.
Have you ever felt this way?
- You wish you had more help during the holidays
- You feel overwhelmed with all you should do
- You don’t know how you’ll deal with a particular family member this year
- You can’t understand why certain people seem to make all the holiday rules...it’s unfair!
- You don’t want to participate in everything, but are afraid of the reaction if you don’t
- You are starting to feel run down, tired, sick, or depressed
I mean who decided that the holidays are supposed to be like this? All the “holiday magic” does not rely on elves, but real people doing real work. There are many things that make the holidays so challenging, but one of the main factors is managing expectations. There are broad societal expectations like “joy” and “giving” and then there are the familial expectations like time spent together, and traditions shared. There are also personal expectations that may be a combination of all of the above plus more! It’s no wonder many feel so stressed and frustrated, and unmet expectations can lead to pain and resentment.
How can you regain power and peace of mind during a time of such high expectations?
I’ve put together five tips to help you be more empowered this holiday season so you can feel more relaxed, joyful, and peaceful (without resorting to wine, but let’s face it, wine helps).
Click to download the tip guide and turn your holiday stress into holiday peace!